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Waiting the day that sounds. I'm gotta get to that
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stuff box gets I magic be on my way, magical
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as we don't know that today.
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Well, hello everyone, I am Jeff and welcome to these
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days with Jeff and Steph. Now we are coming at
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a Catholic perspective on what's going on in the world today.
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So thanks for joining us today. Of course, I am Jeff,
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and we're going down to Nashville, Tennessee. We're gonna talk
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to Steph. How are things going out there?
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Going pretty miraculously today? Actually I have something to say
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besides just hot.
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Well that's good. Let's just get to it. Let us
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know what's miraculous out there in the Bible belt.
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Well, why don't you tell me how your morning's going. First,
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you've got a lot of cats you're dealing with right now.
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Yeah, I always laugh every this big tough guy. And
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yet I have a cloud er cats. If you don't
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know a cloud, it's like a pack of dogs. If
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you have a pack of cats, they're called a clouder.
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And they've all been strays. We'll live out in the country.
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And I have had three and that was enough. And
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then last fall, this one mainsly looking young cat showed up.
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I think it probably got thrown out the car window,
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you know, with the litter kittens or something. I don't know,
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but he showed up and I was like, I don't
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care you go, I'm done. I'm not gonna do any
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more cats. You see his ribs and all of a
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sudd he just wouldn't leave, and I've got well, I'm
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gonna have to do something or I'm gonna bearing a
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cat here. So I started feeding him and all this
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kind of stuff and trying to figure out how to
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get it out of here, and something my mom was
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fighting through dementia. Sad lines ended up being about six
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months later, but she had to mention me and my
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dad were taking care of her and I was trying
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to get rid of this cat, and all of a
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sudden something hit me. It was like, going, that's not
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your cat, that's for your dad. I was like, oh, okay.
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So then I've been taking care of it and raising
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it and trying to turn it into an indoor cat. Well,
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this cat is the sweetest cat. You've seen pictures of it.
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He's a good little guy.
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Big orange orange cats are sweet, they really are.
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And he downstairs were my apartment and my studio and
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all that is. We got some one hundred three days,
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so I'd kind of let him come in here and
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cool off and everything. I divide it because he fights.
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He's trying to take over from the three cats who
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live here normally. He thinks this is I guess he
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thinks he has to fight, like in the wild or
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something for his territory. So he's coming in and my
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dad going, well, you letting that cat in downstairs? It's
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just cool out for a couple hours, you know. Then
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he comes up. I divide it so that he can't
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fight the other cats, and he lives in the garage.
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Somebody goes, you know what, this is the guy who
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didn't want any more animals or anything. But I had
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to just I figured that cat was for him anyway.
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So all of a sudden, out of the blue, he goes,
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you know, we should probably start letting this cat in,
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you know, so it gets used to it. Ooh, okay,
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that's kind of a coming a long way from somebody
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who didn't want any more animals. So of course we
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let the cat in, and he came upstairs, and where's
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going to be living and he thought that was pretty cool,
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and he thought that was good. Now every time he
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try and open the door, there it goes that cat
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right between your legs.
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So like, I'm coming in.
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So my dad comes up the him I think it
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was last night, and he goes, I think we created
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a monster. I don't know what to do, and I go,
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what do you mean? He goes, well, that that cat
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ran in on me. I know, yeah, he's been doing
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that for the last couple of days since we let
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it in. He goes, yeah, but how do I get
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it out? Wow? Okay, So here we are trying to
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get this catch go out. And if you're wondering why
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we're being mean, I don't want that cat in here
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to sound mean until his boys get cut off, you know.
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I don't want to spraying around and everything like that.
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Three of the cats, you Warner Land the importance of that.
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And so until he get his boys cuts off, he's
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gonna be in the garage still. So here we are
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two grown men with these little kitty treats going, come on,
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come coming here, kitty coming, you can go out of
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the garage, and this cat's just sitting there looking like, no,
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I'm not leaving this. I wouldn't have been surprised if
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we were trying to deliver it out to the ground.
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If he want to just shut the door and stay
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locked it and left us in the garage.
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Cat is I want either, because cats are pretty smart.
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So no, that's my little take on today.
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Not much going on dealing with the cats. It's so
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funny how God shows up when you know. I've seen
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it more than one time, especially when there's a loss
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of someone. Cats are healing. I think all animals are healing,
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but there's like a special thing about cats that they
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kind of show up when there's been a death and
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a loss. And I don't know, there's I've noticed that
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I've seen it happen quite a few times, that the
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cat finds you. It's like God, senate, God shows up
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and he's like, Okay, now I'm in the form of
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a cat, and I'm gonna force this love on you
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whether you want it or not.
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Yeah, And they're low maintenance. Still, they're not like I mean,
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dogs are great. I mean, dogs obviously grieve and all
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that kind of stuff. They really take it hard if
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their owner goes away and everything like that, right, But
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a cat so it shows such indifference that when a
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cat actually just like, hey, i'm your bread and curls
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up on your lap or something, you know that there's
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something to that.
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There is definitely, Yeah, it's just crazy. Well, so my morning,
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you know, you know, I'm having to move, and I'm
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going to move actually next weekend. I found a place.
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So the whole thing's been miraculous. So obviously, you know,
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I'm upset about moving. I don't want to leave my
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home that I've had good memories in for ten years.
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But it's a divorced situation. I have to move, and
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it's sad and it's you know, it's just not something
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you want to do or look forward to. But even
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the way I found the place was miraculous. So I
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had been looking all over Nashville and every place was
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too expensive and it wasn't even good, and it wasn't
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in a place that felt good. And I'd put down
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deposits on two different places and I didn't have peace
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about either one, and I was like, I just you know,
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I was just upset. So going back to the Adoration,
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I go to the Adoration chapel and I'm just in tears,
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and I tell Jesus, I don't think I even told
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you this, Did I tell you this part? Okay? So
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I'm in tears and I tell Jesus, I can't find
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the place. I said. You have to just send me
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the place you want me right now, just send it
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straight to me, because I can't find it. Well. By
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the time I get home, I have an email from
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a friend of mine in the neighborhood who's a realtor.
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And I did not ask her to look for places
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for me. I had not asked for her to do this,
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and she had sent me an email and she said, hey,
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I was just thinking about your situation, and here's a
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few places that are not online yet they're not even
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going to be online. Only relators can access this. So
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this is not a place. It was a place that
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actually the owner had just moved out of privately owned,
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so there's not a lot of riff raff to go
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through with a big management company and out of the floor.
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Immediately the one I saw, I knew it was like
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a feeling. I was like, I think I'm supposed to
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be there, and I never could have found it on
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my own. There was no way to possibly find it
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on my own. Only relators would be able to see this.
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And when I called her and I said, I think
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I want to see this place, and she was like,
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you know, I just realized that's actually my friend's place.
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And she didn't even know that it was her friend's
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place when she pulled it up and like send it
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to me. She was looking at it and started thinking, well,
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I think that's Sheila's place, and she had bought it
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and let her daughter live in it, and then her
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daughter got married. So anyway, we go look at it,
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and there was just a piece that came over me
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and it was everything that you know. It's still sad.
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I still don't want to leave my home, but it
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reminds me of a town home I was in a
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few years ago that had good memories, and it's the
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exact same way out. It's only nicer. It's a little
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bigger and it's a little bit nicer, and like God's
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just been pouring love onto me. It's just amazing how
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he shows up. And you know, it's like everything that
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I thought about are kind of worried about, like you know,
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or so it's got all new appliances because I was
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worried or the well will the appliances be crappy or
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even to the point where I had this vision of
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me being able to hang a plant in the corner.
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There's already a hook in the corner for a plant
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right where I wanted to hang it. It's got brand
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new floors, brand new. It's beautiful actually, and like one
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of the places I had put a deposit down on.
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I was upset because I was like, if this is okay. Yeah,
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they renovated it, but there's not like an outside area
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to walk around in that feels good, and there's no balcony,
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there's no outside space. Well, this place has a pretty
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good sized fenced in patio and the entire complex, which
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is small, has a pool. I did send pictures to you,
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so you say, it's got like the nice and it
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just feels good. It's got a sidewalk that goes across
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around the whole thing. It makes a circle. It's got flow.
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And I even took a couple of friends, my neighbors,
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my Vietnamese neighbors who are Catholic. They wanted me to
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go to the home depot with them last night and
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help them. I'm a good decorator, so they wanted me
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to help pick out Tyle and she's redoing her bathroom.
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But I took them by the place and they were
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like genuinely, they're like, Stephanie, I'm so happy for you
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because they know everything I've been through, and they're like,
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this place just does have a good feeling. You can
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feel God's hand on it. And they're like, this is beautiful,
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this is so cute. This is all you need. And
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so yeah, like God showed up. I said, God, I
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can't find it my own. You're gonna have to send
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it to me. And within an hour, talk about faithfulness,
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he sent it to me.
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You know you moving it proved to me that God
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loves me too, because you're not having to that's right.
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He put it together and honestly said, you're gonna meet
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this great woman. You guys are gonna have a great rapport,
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become really good friends. You're gonna have a good banter.
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You might not get agree on everything, but you're gonna
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be respectful and you're gonna just your life is gonna
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be better for having her in it. And she's fifteen
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hundred miles a eight hours or miles away, so you
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don't have to help He remove there.
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You go. Isn't that the truth? Because if there's anything
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I hate, I actually think I made a calliment one time.
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I was like, there's got to be like a like
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a section of hell where all you have to do
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is help people move all day because because it's horrible,
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I hate moving. But that brings me to my second story,
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which just happened. I want you know, you and I
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talk about, like, what are we gonna talk about on
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the show. Well this it's so God is so faithful
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for everything, because this story just happened. So I wasn't
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even unknown to tell you we were gonna talk about it.
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So this morning I wake up and I'm like, I
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might as well just deal with the suffering. You know.
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My friend called me and actually left me a message.
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The Bereavery of Today for the Catholic Church talks about
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there there are no graces without suffering, and the greater
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the suffering, the greater the graces you're given. So I'm like, well,
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this is perfect. I'm hearing our message while I'm on
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hold with the cable company. Then I'm on hold with
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the electric company, and I'm like, this is all just
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horrible that I'm having to because when you're you know,
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like when you're getting married and moving into a place,
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you're excited and you're starting a new life, and you
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don't mind even making these calls and being on hold
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and all the inconvenience of just the monotony of having